By Shea Ki
Stressing out before your job interview? I've got you covered with this four part blog series. In case you have not stopped by here before, welcome to my corner of the internet that serves up stress relief and helpful tips for shining in the hot seat.
In my experience as a hiring manager and Career Confidence Coach for many years, I know for sure that the effects of STRESS is what holds back so many talented people at interviews. I created the Upgrade My Interview™ method to provide a holistic approach that teaches you how to use your mindset, body language, and energy to boost your interview performance.
It might help to know that many successful people feel stressed about being interviewed or performing our best under pressure (including celebrities). When there are high stakes involved such as a better job, more money, higher status, or other rewards, our brains go on the alert.
Even when you have much to offer the world of work (and you do!), your inner self can go into a "flight, fight, or freeze" mode when headed into an interview.
In your head, flight sounds like this:
"I avoid interviews, even if that means I pass up opportunities. Why put myself through that torture when it hardly ever turns out well?"
In your heart, fight feels like this:
"I wish I could relax and be more me. Being interviewed is such a struggle. I get so worked up and anxious when I have to talk about myself. I can't stand feeling like I have to prove how good I am at something to someone else."
Freeze looks like this:
You find yourself fumbling for the right words after the interviewer asks a tough or unusual question. Or perhaps you are only answering their questions instead of knowing how to make it a meaningful, two-sided conversation about the job. You know you need to be doing more to build that real connection, but you aren't sure how to get past the noise in your head.
What are the negative effects at interviews of this flight, fight, or freezing response? These reactions to the stress of being in the hot seat result in nervous inner thoughts, tightened up body language, and guarded energy. All of these inner obstacles block the people interviewing you from seeing your best self.
What can you do about it so your interview impresses instead of disappoints? This four part blog series will help you explore and practice stress relief hacks, starting with your mindset first.
Upgrade My Interview Mindset Mantras
That clear, positive first impression you want to make on others will get clouded up quickly if you forget to check in with your mindset before you sit in the hot seat.
Science has discovered that we think over 50,000-70,000 thoughts a day that connect to how we behave. Are you are on top of what you are thinking (your mindset) and keeping it positive? This can be challenging in the hot seat, even for those of us who are trained in mindfulness or other personal development practices.
When you notice your self-talk is not positive before your big moment, you have to turn it around. But how?
Repeating a few affirmations every now and then will not do the trick. Rewiring your mindset involves letting positive power statements really sink in by using them more like mantras (hearing them and saying them over and over again).
Listen to them when you are in the shower, brushing your teeth, washing the dishes. At least twice a day will provide stress relief and build up your belief in your value.
Thinking positively while under stress is often easier said then done. It can be tough figuring out where to start and what to tell yourself. Here's 22 mantras that will save you time and effort while also leaving a positive powerful effect on your interviewing mindset.
Start replacing your self-doubts or inner criticism with the Upgrade My Interview™ mindset mantras in this video:
When you need relief from the interview struggle, these mindset mantras are a good place to begin. Now you have a powerful tool for boosting your mindset before you are in the spotlight. This inner work is so important to building up your confidence, but it's not the only element you need to shine in the hot seat.
Next time on the blog--I'll provide you with a video to help align your body language and your energy to your message of professional value.
Until then, let me know in the comments below any questions you have about the mindset mantras or how else I can help you upgrade your interview.
Most of all, believe in you.
I'm Shea Ki, founder of the Upgrade My Interview™ method. I want to see you shine in the hot seat and attract work that lights you up.
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Did you listen to the video in this blog yet? Here's an infographic with a preview of what you will hear to help you shine in the hot seat: